Anvita Janardanan

Psychology-of-anger-picture Most of us have felt anger at our boss, the fellow driver, the weather, traffic, or even at ourselves. Many have a hard time 'controlling' anger. Some have had outbursts, which later lead to feelings of guilt. Others fail to find a way to communicate how angry they feel and supress it. Whether or not it received adequate expression, anger is one emotion that every human being is fimilar with. Whether you're feeling irritated, annoyed, furious or outraged at someone or something, at some point you must have wondered " Why do we get angry?"

Anger, although unwelcome for many, is a normal and USEFUL emotion. It tells you, 'Hey, you're being wronged here!'.It helps you stand up yourself. The role of anger is to motivate you to find solutions when things do not go your way. It gives you the push to protect yourself and and your interests. If you or something precious to you is being attacked, anger helps you defend yourself


Despite the many uses we saw above, anger is far from appreciated. It is considered to be a 'negative' emotion. Children are taught to not get angry or at least not to show anger. Anger is said to breakdown relationships. Communication stops.Distances grow. We let anger take a hold of us rather than us taking a hold over anger. In reality, anger is not at fault we are. The fault lies in our way of expressing anger. We are often unable to find helpful ways to express anger. Our natural tendency is to express anger in an aggressive manner:

Scream.Yell. Fight. Cry. Throw things. Hit others. Harm yourself. Isolate yourself. Or even attempt suicide.

Do any of these methods help resolve feelings of anger? NOT REALLY !

As a result, you continue to feel angry. At times, you may attempt to suppress your anger. This anger then builds up and comes out in various unpredicatable ways. Because of the ineffective ways of expressing anger, the anger continues to grow each time. Along with that, there is an increase in your heart rate, blood pressure, rate of respiration and body temperature. It weakens your immune system and increases your chances of suffering from heart disease, stroke and even depression.
Don't want anger to take over your life ? Then find the right ways to express it. If screaming does not help, what does?

Here are some helpful ways of expressing anger that you can try.

* Be assertive, not demanding.
* Get rid of 'always' and 'never' thinking: "He always forgets my work" / "She never treats me well".
* Change your response: Use humor, mild exercises.
* Use relaxation techniques: Deep breathes, meditation, yoga.
* Write. When you cannot express your anger to the person or change the situaition,
acknowledge your anger and let it go by writing down your feelings
* Reconsider your reasons for becoming angry.
* Use anger to find solutions, not to be aggressive.

If none of these help, and you still find yourself getting angry frequently, come seek help at: Mumbai Psychiatry clinics
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